Not long ago I auditioned for a TEDx jury in front of a live audience.
There were 14 passionate, intelligent speakers vying for the chance to present their “idea worth spreading” for the 2017 season.
My topic was My Unrealistic Reality. Each time I share my stories and how I view life, many people ask, But HOW DO YOU STAY SO POSITIVE AND HOW CAN YOU TELL THESE STORIES WITH SUCH EASE AND HAPPINESS?
I offer my viewpoint throughout my presentation, with examples such as: After my body was crushed in the car accident and the doctor came to offer his prognosis for my recovery, he stated, “Your injuries are extreme, your body will not fully recover and your athletic career is over”…. and I WAS DELIGHTED…. because what I heard him say was, “You have a completely different body now, so you get to choose interesting, new and exciting things to BECOME!” I did choose new and exciting things to become, and so, there was nothing wrong with the circumstances, and, after some time I also healed decently and DID return to my athletic career.
Although I give these examples and live my life with this kind of thought process, not even I realized how my personally trained way of thinking is such an engrained part of me, until a gentleman named Oliver, spoke on the subject of happiness. His focus was about how our thoughts, rather than our circumstances can help us to create our own level of happiness.
Toward the end of his presentation he said, I am going to quickly demonstrate just how powerful your mind is. Please close your eyes. Imagine a big, yellow, juicy lemon. It is on a plate in front of you. You have a sharp knife and you cut the big, yellow lemon in half. It is glistening in front of you. You see the juice dripping from the slice. Now you pick the lemon up, and you take a big, juicy bite. Now open your eyes.
He then asked, Raise your hand if you had a physical reaction of some kind during that story.
Everybody in the room raised their hand… Except for me.
Oliver then chuckled and said, That’s how powerful your mind is. There was no lemon. I was just saying words. Yet, your mouth was affected wasn’t it? Everybody laughed and nodded, yes.
I had no physical reaction to Oliver’s story.
The moment I heard Oliver say the word lemon, I chose to re-imagine a lemon as the most sweet and easy thing in the world to taste. I did not know where his story was going, or that he would ask us to take a bite in our mind. I did know that the thought of a lemon causes my mouth to have an unpleasant reaction, and I like pleasant things… so, I just made it pleasant. When he asked us to taste it, I took a completely different bite than everybody else in the room.
I did not think about the significance of this until I was on the train home after the event.
When life gives me challenges I re-imagine them into advantages and when my mind gives me lemons, I make butterscotch fudge!
My name is Harold Newcomb and I purchased your video with the training skills and I really love it. I purchased it for my grand daughter, but she wasn’t interested.
As I tried learning all these tricks and drills I found out it is a very good way to exercise while doing something very fun and enjoyable. It is no easy task for me even though I’m a good athlete. I have several problems learning and performing the tricks. I’m 6′ 2″ and I’m 80 years old, but I’ve got heart and determination.
I am an inventor. I mow lawns and use a zero turn Cub Cadet mower. I’ve invented a special mower and I can use the feet to steer the mower, so I am free to do many things with the hands.
I also must alter some of the tricks because of the seat on the mower and can not use my legs because I’m using them to steer the machine. The zero turn circle enables me to use the baton to perform many of the neck rolls, continuous elbow rolls, mouth rolls, elbow pop rolls, as well as many other functions.
I am still learning to do all these tricks and would like to someday make videos for you tube. I would much prefer teaching you to steer the mower and allow you to do the baton tricks. I do have the patten on the invention and these videos would help in selling the idea to some huge manufacturing company.
I had thought that it would be much easier to teach you to operate the zero turn mower than me to do the tricks.
Please let me know what you think of the ideas.
I play your videos every night and imagine myself twirling the baton to some wild James Bond music.
The colorfully chaotic painting hanging in the gallery caught my eye through the window.
Without hesitation I entered the small establishment and began absorbing and appreciating the creativity of the artists whose work adorned the walls. Styles ranged from sophisticated oils, to quirky, multi-media pieces.
I thought, my creations will look great in here, as I admired the painting that drew me in.
A young lady appeared and lingered behind a work counter.
What is the process for having one’s art displayed here? Ipolitely inquired.
She began her discourse, There are a lot of artists who want in here, we have ten show galleries in Norway, it is very difficult…. as I registered her demeanor, my most valuable life skill kicked in.
I immediately and completely checked myself out from her reality and into my own, self-sculpted, great feeling, unreality.
She went on for quite some time, and when she took a pause to think of more reasons why she believed things were so dismal, I enthusiastically asked for web information on applying for my work to be shown.
She was thrown off balance by this. She repeated, it is very difficult.
I said, I am an absolute master at navigating difficulty, what a perfect situation for me!
She nervously laughed and dropped her pen.
I happily returned home and applied for my art to be shown.
Contentment is not rocket science.
You simply have to not buy in to the limitations of those who are not YOU.